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Overcoming Insecurity: The Best Tip You’ll Ever Need

Do you want to know the best tip for overcoming insecurity in your life today?

It’s a concept so simple that I wish I had learned it a whole lot sooner.

As I’ve said before, I struggled with a lot of insecurities when I was younger and even up until a few years ago.

I was never smart enough, never funny enough, never sporty enough and never good enough.

Never enough.

After all, that’s the root of all insecurity: not being ‘something’ enough.

Well, almost half a decade of self-improvement, hundreds of books and a couple thousand pounds in therapy fees and I learned what the most important thing is when you are overcoming insecurity.

 

The Big Scoop…

Self-compassion.

That’s it. Being compassionate towards yourself, your thoughts and your actions.

Not only can this turn your life around, but it can also entirely change the way you see yourself and others.

When you stop approaching life as an adversary and begin to live with a sense of compassion, then you may just find that life gets a lot easier.

So, is it that simple?

Do you just decide to be compassionate and then it all just goes away?

Well, yes and no.

 

Is This An Overnight, Catch-All Cure?

Unfortunately, there really is no overnight cure for insecurities. It’s something that you have to work on over time.

If you want to know how I’ve worked on my own insecurities from the past, you can read my post on how to stop insecurity here.

In my previous posts, I’ve talked about a straightforward process for beating your insecurities one by one. However, since there is no quick fix, your tendency may be to become too hard on yourself.

I get it though.

You want results now and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be rid of your insecurities, whatever they might be. But, like any therapist, coach or self-improvement blogger worth their salt will tell you, massive change is a gradual process.

So, how does it work then?

 

Compassionate Mind Training

Being compassionate towards yourself is an add-on to the methods you are using when overcoming insecurity in your life.

When I began to change and challenge my insecurities, I soon realised that this was not the whole picture. Along with what I was doing I had to give myself permission to fail, to make wrong turns and take my time as well.

I had to forgive myself for not being able to “fix” myself straight away because that’s not the way life works.

 

Once I began to approach battling my insecurities with a compassionate mind, my progress actually seemed to get faster as well.

Never underestimate the value of telling yourself:

  • “Everything is going to be OK.”
  • “You are doing great.”
  • “I forgive you.”
  • “It’s OK to start now and get perfect later.”

Positive, compassionate self-talk may just be what you need to get yourself over the next hurdle.

 

Book Recommendation

If you are serious about training your mind to be more compassionate both towards others and yourself, you can’t go wrong with buying the Compassionate Mind Workbook.

It’s an essential, step-by-step guide to developing your compassionate self. It has been an invaluable tool in my own personal development.

Spending just a few minutes every day working through the book may just be what you need to change your life in a matter of a few days, weeks or months.

 

Final Thoughts

The next time you feel annoyed or angry at yourself for not progressing fast enough, take some time to be compassionate towards yourself.

You are doing the best that you can and nobody could ask any more of you than that.

Not only will compassion make overcoming insecurity easier, but it will also be of massive help in achieving your other goals.

Take some time today to be compassionate towards yourself.

Want to know where to go next? You can check out my full blog archive here. Or, you can read my latest post on the 4 things causing you brain fog.

Leave a comment below and tell me how you’ve been compassionate to yourself today.

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4 Comments

  • Marna Altman

    Prior to my divorce I was painfully insecure. Post divorce once I cleared out all the negative self talk from the ex, I was able to see who and what I really was. That coupled with not caring about others opinions has transformed me into a much happier, healthier, whole person.

    • Ben Yearwood

      Hi Marna. I’m glad to hear that you’re doing so well.

      I totally agree and I think being able to separate other people’s opinions from the way you think about yourself is key to living a happier life. I hope you continue to grow in health and happiness.

    • Ben Yearwood

      Hi Lanae. I know what you mean, it really can be hard and that’s what self-compassion is all about. It’s OK for things to be hard.

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